When trying to blend two families together many of us don't realize how difficult that can be. In the media divorced families are most often not displayed accurately. Shows like Reba for example are just not the norm when it comes to mixing two households. However there is lots of research that can help us as we try to create a home.
1. Realize that it takes about two years (on average) to create some kind of normalcy within the family
2. Let the original birth parent do most of the heavy discipline
3. The new stepparent should be have a role similar to an aunt or uncle in the beginning
4. Coordinate and Counsel together as a married behind closed doors about how to proceed
5. Focus on your Marriage-don't forget to take time to cultivate and work on your marriage together especially if you are newlyweds. Cherish that time of getting to know each other and bond.
I think that it is important that in trying to create a blended family or really any family that we focus first on our marriage. That is truly the most important relationship that we will ever have in this life. Parenthood is a wonderful thing, but it is temporary compared to a marriage. I truly feel that if we put our marriage first that we other parts of our family will fall into place.
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